“My marriage is struggling”

“where to go some of you are dealing with a tribulation in your family your marriage is in trouble your marriage is struggling there's tribulation a child has walked away from the Lord and you're struggling with that tribulation tribulation is a reality and tribulation is an experience that we all know in life and it's a part of living in this Fallen World in the broken Brokenness of this world and the disappointment of this world as it is”

“It's never convenient. And it's never expedient. Maybe you need to hear that today. Maybe you're in marriage and you're struggling. But what you need to understand is that when you entered into marriage, you didn't marry a perfect person. And you're not a perfect person. And so God, God has ordained your marriage as a vessel to sharpen you and sanctify you.”

“Claire compassion and care but also great clarity from God's word as we need to know what does the bible tell us about marriages I think one of the reason our marriages and our families are struggling today is because we're so easily indwelling and believing lies of our culture John Mark Comer in his book live no lies he's also written ruthless elimination of hurry to my probably top five books we use live no lies when we preached our second Corinthians series and in that book he said this I think we”

“forgive find your enjoyment and being someone who ministers Mercy to others and that's especially true in the home Dan allender and tremper Longman said we must never be naive enough to think of marriage as a Safe Harbor from the fall the deepest struggles of life will occur in the most primary relationship affected by the Fall that's marriage it was Ruth Graham who said every marriage needs two good givers and two good for givers and to be merciful”

“known the things that I've done, like, man, you wouldn't love me. You wouldn't accept me. You wouldn't sit across from me. You would just judge me. You see, guilt looks at the behavior, but shames puts an emphasis on the person. You don't just feel like you failed, you feel like you're a failure. There's a lot of people in the room who struggle with shame. How about the supposed to bees? I mean, my marriage is supposed to be better than this. My husband's supposed to be like this. My”

“and marries another commits adultery so is there biblical precedent and means for divorce yes but what God has joined together he doesn't desire for any man including husband or wife to separate and just think about this from a second for for a second from God's point of view of his Covenant commitment to us you see when you become a Believer and you repent of your sin and you put your life and your trust and your hope in”

“relationships in life respect and when respect is gone when respect is lost relationships suffer and struggle for survival it was Gary Thomas an author who has written over 15 books on marriage who wrote this in one of his books we are obsessed with being respected but rarely consider our own obligation to respect”

“sexual liberalization the sexual Liberation revolution of the 1960s set in motion a Cascade effect the reversal of the long-standing moral consensus around promiscuity separating sex from Marriage worked in tandem with the Advent of birth control and the legalization of abortion separating sex from procreation which moved on to the legalization of no fault divorce turning a covenant into a contract and separated sex from intimacy infidelity then to Tender and hook up culture separating”

“consensus around promiscuity that separated sex from Marriage it worked in tandem with the Advent of birth control and the legalization of abortion separating sex from procreation which moved on to the legalization of no fault divorce divorce turning a covenant into a contract and separating sex from intimacy and fidelity then it turned to Tinder and hook up culture”

“shall become one flesh so they are no longer two but they are one flesh what therefore God has joined together let not man separate and then they said to him why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and send her away and notice this very close to God's heart notice what he says he said to them because of your hardness of of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives but from the beginning it was not so and I say to you whoever divorces his wife except for sexual immorality”

“when he said, "The sexual liberation revolution of the 1960s set in motion a cascade effect. The reversal of the longstanding moral consensus surrounding promiscuity, that is separating sex from marriage, worked in tandem with the advent of birth control and the legalization of ad of of abortion, separating sex from procreation, which moved on to the legalization of no fault divorce, turning a covenant into a contract, and separated sex from intimacy and”

“how they really feel you hear wonderful things about about the person at the beginning and at the end but often as I meet with couples who are struggling what happens is that no one says it anymore in the middle but if you want to have a good marriage you can't neglect this ministry of encouragement men your wife needs to know that you think she's absolutely beautiful your wife needs to know that she matters”

“it's something that's deep is something that's mysterious but it's something that only God can forge and so later in scripture we see that God says this is what God has done let no man separate it and so church this is why we've got to be very careful with divorce divorce is something that is extremely serious we're talking about a covenant that God”

“softly, honestly, kindly with the person in your life who maybe is just not going down best path. when I was um reading kind of thinking about well what what does this look like biblically like where is an example of this I thought of King David um I don't know if you know the story of King David well or not but there was a point in King David's life a man after God's own heart where he took Basheba a woman that was not his wife to be his wife committed adultery had her husband Uriah killed by putting him at”

“according to the language of his people." And so they say, "You know what? We're doing away with her." I don't know if they didn't use the word divorce, but pretty much like Queen Vashti's done for and by the way, we're setting the example, do not disobey your husbands. They are your masters. This is a culture where women are objectified. I mean, the ask of what he wanted to do to begin with is grotesque at best. He simply wants to bring in his beautiful wife, not for his own pleasure. He wants to bring her in to parade her around to show everybody else”

“the brokenness and the separation. But from that point forward, in Genesis chapter 4, all the way to Revelation in the end in 22, God is working this plan of reconciling broken, messed up people and making them right through the power of the gospel and bringing them back into relationship with him. And so, in this storyline that we study in our Foundations 1 discipleship class, we learn about these different covenants that God makes with his people. And one”

“antisocial because they didn't participate in the Pagan practices of the day and then the Jews in Smyrna they piled on too they accused the Christians of being cannibals because they partook of the body and the blood of Jesus and the Lord's Supper they were accused of immorality because they greeted each other with a holy kiss they were accused of being home Wreckers because they would convert a spouse to Christianity and their husband or wife didn't share”

“it is also more than the combined revenues of ABC NBC and CBS pornography use increases marital infidelity rate by more than 300 percent 56 percent of American divorces involve one party having a quote obsessive interest in pornographic websites seventy percent of all youth pastors and churches indicate that they have dealt with students who have come to them with need for help repeatedly in the past 12”

“when our spouses wrong us or say something too sharp to us or have infidelity or have any of these sort of things we've got to First Look through the lens of how God views us through Christ number three not only is marriage a sacred covenant not a social contract marriage is a blessing for us but it's not all about us ooh that one hurts right message is a blessing for us but it's not all about us notice what it says again in Genesis 2 24 and 25 look at these terms therefore”