Your marriage

“relationships in life respect and when respect is gone when respect is lost relationships suffer and struggle for survival it was Gary Thomas an author who has written over 15 books on marriage who wrote this in one of his books we are obsessed with being respected but rarely consider our own obligation to respect”

“sexual liberalization the sexual Liberation revolution of the 1960s set in motion a Cascade effect the reversal of the long-standing moral consensus around promiscuity separating sex from Marriage worked in tandem with the Advent of birth control and the legalization of abortion separating sex from procreation which moved on to the legalization of no fault divorce turning a covenant into a contract and separated sex from intimacy infidelity then to Tender and hook up culture separating”

“consensus around promiscuity that separated sex from Marriage it worked in tandem with the Advent of birth control and the legalization of abortion separating sex from procreation which moved on to the legalization of no fault divorce divorce turning a covenant into a contract and separating sex from intimacy and fidelity then it turned to Tinder and hook up culture”

“shall become one flesh so they are no longer two but they are one flesh what therefore God has joined together let not man separate and then they said to him why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and send her away and notice this very close to God's heart notice what he says he said to them because of your hardness of of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives but from the beginning it was not so and I say to you whoever divorces his wife except for sexual immorality”

“when he said, "The sexual liberation revolution of the 1960s set in motion a cascade effect. The reversal of the longstanding moral consensus surrounding promiscuity, that is separating sex from marriage, worked in tandem with the advent of birth control and the legalization of ad of of abortion, separating sex from procreation, which moved on to the legalization of no fault divorce, turning a covenant into a contract, and separated sex from intimacy and”

“how they really feel you hear wonderful things about about the person at the beginning and at the end but often as I meet with couples who are struggling what happens is that no one says it anymore in the middle but if you want to have a good marriage you can't neglect this ministry of encouragement men your wife needs to know that you think she's absolutely beautiful your wife needs to know that she matters”

“it's something that's deep is something that's mysterious but it's something that only God can forge and so later in scripture we see that God says this is what God has done let no man separate it and so church this is why we've got to be very careful with divorce divorce is something that is extremely serious we're talking about a covenant that God”

“softly, honestly, kindly with the person in your life who maybe is just not going down best path. when I was um reading kind of thinking about well what what does this look like biblically like where is an example of this I thought of King David um I don't know if you know the story of King David well or not but there was a point in King David's life a man after God's own heart where he took Basheba a woman that was not his wife to be his wife committed adultery had her husband Uriah killed by putting him at”

“according to the language of his people." And so they say, "You know what? We're doing away with her." I don't know if they didn't use the word divorce, but pretty much like Queen Vashti's done for and by the way, we're setting the example, do not disobey your husbands. They are your masters. This is a culture where women are objectified. I mean, the ask of what he wanted to do to begin with is grotesque at best. He simply wants to bring in his beautiful wife, not for his own pleasure. He wants to bring her in to parade her around to show everybody else”

“the brokenness and the separation. But from that point forward, in Genesis chapter 4, all the way to Revelation in the end in 22, God is working this plan of reconciling broken, messed up people and making them right through the power of the gospel and bringing them back into relationship with him. And so, in this storyline that we study in our Foundations 1 discipleship class, we learn about these different covenants that God makes with his people. And one”

“story with Bathsheba how David commits like awful horrific sin adultery with another woman and then has her wife his her husband killed on the line of battle and and then even after that David still trusts God for forgiveness and healing there's not a moment in his life where he doesn't trust him and so I'm here today I think with a room this full with this many people to say like whether you've been trusting God for 50 years or whether you just started following him. The fact remains”

“who, you know, would come up and say things like, oh, oh, bless your heart. I'm sure praying that you'll find yourself a good husband, a good wife, you know. And again, we say that with good intention, but sometimes what it communicates unintentionally is that there's something wrong with them and then they hear that message over and over and then what happens their motivation for wanting to get married has nothing to do with being a spouse to another individual it actually has everything to do with not being a less than human that they're”

“as legally binding. It was a one-year period of time, and it was seen legally binding. In fact, if a woman's husband passed away while they were betrothed, she was considered a virgin who is a widow. She was considered a widow because it was a legally binding process. So he would have to divorce her to end even the betrothal. And so Joseph, it says here, being a just man, he did not want to shame his wife but as any dude if anyone's being honest with you there's some there's some”

“antisocial because they didn't participate in the Pagan practices of the day and then the Jews in Smyrna they piled on too they accused the Christians of being cannibals because they partook of the body and the blood of Jesus and the Lord's Supper they were accused of immorality because they greeted each other with a holy kiss they were accused of being home Wreckers because they would convert a spouse to Christianity and their husband or wife didn't share”

“it is also more than the combined revenues of ABC NBC and CBS pornography use increases marital infidelity rate by more than 300 percent 56 percent of American divorces involve one party having a quote obsessive interest in pornographic websites seventy percent of all youth pastors and churches indicate that they have dealt with students who have come to them with need for help repeatedly in the past 12”

“when our spouses wrong us or say something too sharp to us or have infidelity or have any of these sort of things we've got to First Look through the lens of how God views us through Christ number three not only is marriage a sacred covenant not a social contract marriage is a blessing for us but it's not all about us ooh that one hurts right message is a blessing for us but it's not all about us notice what it says again in Genesis 2 24 and 25 look at these terms therefore”

“of your relationship is divorce Christian Covenant commitment for life is as if we are standing with the gushing Waters against us and we must stand firm and faithful in the midst of everything coming at us one more thing man and then I am going to speak to you two ladies men we need to put down our phones turn off the TV look at our spouse in the eyes and talk and connect for some of you you hear my voice and you're like Stephen that is difficult”

“we come here together and smile at everyone and go, "Yay, my family's wonderful, my kids are perfect, my job is excellent." We need to be real with each other. I'm struggling with lust. Pride is getting the root of me. I feel like my sins are catching up to me. My marriage is almost at the end of itself. You know how many times I have meetings with people who are getting divorced? I didn't even know they were”

“of his son maybe today you're you're in a tough spot in your marriage maybe you come and it's broken and it's messy and you're just sitting there struggling with the Temptation like man did I marry the right person should I bail out but let me tell you something over and over again I have seen God enter the most broken places of relationships”

“the chaos, what we see is that Hannah is deeply struggling with her faith. This isn't this isn't just about a child. This is between her and the Lord. She is struggling in her faith. Have you been there? Maybe it's a diagnosis. Maybe it's a difficult marriage or relationship or maybe it's the disappointment that you've experienced in a career or just in your life in general. And often we ask questions of God. We say, "God, why? Why don't you hear me? Why don't you answer”

“saying a quarrelsome wife or a wife that constantly stirs up conflict disrespect and dishonor is the same way and he says Hey to restrain her is like restraining the wind or oil going through your hands he's saying it's not possible right so what is the positive command then to us as husbands and as wives Ephesians 5 33 says this however comma Let each of you love his wife as himself so husbands love your wife as himself that's a”

“says this for a married woman is bound to her to by law to her husband while he lives but if her husband does she is the release from the law of marriage accordingly she will be called and adulterous if she lives with another man while her husband is alive but if her husband dies she's free from that law and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress okay so what is the difference then in a lifelong Covenant in a contract well I would say a contract comes with exit Clauses and a covenant does not”

“Asking husbands and wives if they prayed together what the divorce rate was if they prayed together. And you know what that ratio was? One out of 1,153 that got a divorce, folks. One out of 1,153 that got a divorce. My question to you as men, as husbands, as fathers.”

“husband an acquiescent wife silently goes along with something she disagrees with and even perhaps despises she will not raise an objection because she thinks she's being Noble or Godly by keeping her thoughts to herself but a Godly wife can and should raise an objection if she has one she should ask questions of her husband and seek to understand why he is leading them in the way that he is and that I love this a good marriage is one filled with agreement a wife ought to seek to get on the same”

“action by a wife there can be an equal or opposite unloving reaction by her husband and for every unloving action by a husband there can be an equal or opposite disrespectful action by his wife he calls this the crazy cycle and let me tell you we all in marriage every once in a while you can throw it up Carrie get on the crazy cycle because this is how this works right so you're speaking with your wife”